Five Words I Hate and Why


1. Disabled I don’t hate the word disability, but I despise the word disabled – especially when I see it in a headline like this one, or worse, this one. “The disabled” is a lazy way of grouping people with a loose – very loose! – commonality. Sometimes it’s to elicit a sympathetic response, but that […]

We Want to Be Treated Like Everyone Else…Except When We Don’t

Despite the apparent forcefulness of last Tuesday’s rant on the Robert Ethan Saylor case, I struggled with the decision to post about it. The story picked up a lot of steam following the grand jury’s decision not to indict, but I’d been watching the case for weeks. In fact, I had a draft written several […]

Who Is To Blame For Ethan Saylor’s Death?

I’ve been asked my opinion on the Saylor case, and given that so many other bloggers in the special needs world have posited an opinion, I guess it’s time for me to make my thoughts known, as well. If you don’t know what I’m talking about, first read up on it here. And while you’re […]

The Good, the Bad, and the Invisible

Last week was tumultuous for me. Nathan’s image went viral on Facebook, prompting friends and strangers alike to say wonderful things about him and my family, and to share it with their friends. Unfortunately, not all comments were kind. In fact, some of them were downright vicious. Several people reached out to me to ask […]

World Down Syndrome Day

Take five minutes (4:18, to be exact) out of your day to view the following video from the International Down Syndrome Coalition for Life. It’s the real story of parenting a child with Down syndrome that you don’t often hear. It’s the story that needs to be told. About World Down Syndrome Day March 21, […]

What the Levy Wrongful Birth Case Told the World About Down Syndrome

The recent “wrongful birth” case of the Levy family bothers me on many levels. I want to understand how loving parents could rationalize filing a lawsuit claiming that their daughter’s birth was wrongful. I don’t want to judge them or the jury that awarded them $2.9 million – truly, I don’t. I sat on this […]

The Power of Language


African-American. Gay and lesbian. Disabled person. What do you think of when you see these phrases? Nigger. Faggot. How do you feel when you hear or see these words? Retard. How is this word different from the previous two? Why do many in today’s society think it’s fine to use the words retard or retarded, […]

Andi Speaks….Again


As I mentioned in last Friday’s 7 Quick Takes, today I was scheduled for two speaking engagements. The first was at a metro-Atlanta area Mothers of Preschoolers (MOPS) meeting; the second was the first installment of a series on diversity sponsored by Georgia Highlands College. I’ll post more later on my whirlwind speaking tour but […]

The Advocacy Wars: Different, Not Less

advocacy, parenting, self-advocates, disability, special needs

Apparently, I’m selfish, coddled, and incapable of understanding. Oh, and I’m also wasting my education and undermining the fight to break the glass ceiling. Because parents of children with disabilities are insufferable martyrs, and stay-at-home moms are selfish slackers. What a horrible mother I must be, and I never knew it until today. Several years […]